My big sister Melody moved out to Los Angeles several years ago. She’d recently broken up with a serious boyfriend in our hometown, and she wanted to try a new life in the “big city”. Unfortunately, while LA has much to offer and loads of eligible bachelors, it turns out it’s pretty difficult to find those who are interested in anything of substance. After several years of dating several Mr. Wrongs she decided to try online dating. Initially she was hesitant; being from southern roots she is extremely old fashioned, and I think the idea of finding someone online seemed a little unromantic.
Eventually though, she realized she needed to try something new if she wanted to get different results. I think initially she may have tried Match.com or other similar sites, but while they yielded tons of options she rarely found anyone there she was interested in emailing, let alone going on an actual date with. After hearing of a friend’s success she decided to try eHarmony. She liked the fact that it was a higher-caliber selection and that the people on there were looking for something more serious. She bought a 3-month membership, and as it turns out, she never even needed all that time. Within a couple of weeks Melody was matched with Jake.
I remember when she showed me his profile how oddly similar their tastes were. Honestly, how else would you find someone who would list Stevie Ray Vaughn and Willie Nelson as their top two favorite musicians and who similarly shared a deep love for the Dodgers? Jake was the first person Melody ever reached out to on an internet dating site, and over a year later it’s easy to see why they fit so perfectly together. When you have a sibling or a close friend who’s single and who wants to move to the next phase so badly, you hope whomever they find next will be the right one.
I can’t tell you how much I prayed Melody would find someone to love her just as she is, someone who’d appreciate her odd sense of humor and adore her mad baking skills just like the rest of us. I’m so thankful she and Jake found each other in this big city, and honestly, I don’t know how they ever would have met if it wasn’t for eHarmony.
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Honesty is very important because you must be able to trust your partner
here is the link to my tweet:
https://twitter.com/#!/bellows22/status/175427454796705792
The most important character trait to me is humor. Life is so hard some days and a sense of humor would make life so much more fun and enjoyable during the hard times.
I tweeted
https://twitter.com/#!/Ilovemybeagle2/status/175639410837176320
My partner must have compassion because when things are not so good I know I can always count on him to tell me everything is going to be okay. thanks!
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https://twitter.com/#!/shuggysmommy/status/176025384113029120
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Kindness because I couldn’t spend the rest of my life with a meanie:)
tweeted: https://twitter.com/#!/KerryBishop/status/176031737091063809
The most important trait my partner must have is honesty. I believe as the old saying goes honesty is the best policy. I feel it keeps the relationship healthy.
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Tweet: https://twitter.com/#!/katbirdfl/status/176169972140224513
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I think the most important trait is kindness. It’s sometimes difficult to have empathy but it would make the world a much better place if we all strove to be kinder and more empathetic.
Tweet
https://twitter.com/#!/didyouyarnthat/status/176990507795361793
The important trait is sense of humor. A happy wife is a happy life!
I think being supportive is critical, even if that support needs to be tempered with a good dose of reality! If the one person who you live with until death doesn’t have your back, how can you have the strength to face the world?
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In my opinion, the most important thing to look for in someone you want to spend the rest of your life with is trust because that is the backbone of any relationship. Without having complete trust in your partner, it is very hard for the relationship to weather the bumps that inevitably come.
Honesty is important because honesty = trust.
A loyal and forgiving spirit. Relationships are tough and you want to have someone who will fight for the relationship.
Make me laugh. Humor can get you thru the hardest of times, this I know from experience!
I tweeted here: https://twitter.com/#!/MsTofuFairy/status/179267379388350464
In watching some of my friends date, I would say fidelity is a trait that is lacking in a lot of people!
I think its important to be able to communicate openly and honestly with each other
For me, honesty is the most important because without it you lose trust. Humor is next since it helps through the hard times.
Honesty is so important to me. I have found if a person can tell one lie, no matter what it is about, they can tell many more.
Tweeted http://twitter.com/#!/chipdip2010/status/180253021257736193
Honesty, kindness to others, and loyalty.
For me, it’s a shared sense of humor to find the funny in life.
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I think the most important character trait would be good communication. I believe it’s the backbone of a good relationship, as it correlates to so many areas, from just plain communicating, to raising kids, to getting through disagreements and to just having a good ‘ol time with one another. To be able to potentially have an affect on the world together with our voices is pretty powerful!
I’m not sure how to describe this but I will give it a go. I want someone who sees me do something kind of stupid (like trip in heels) and think…wow, she’s so cute. So maybe well medicated? LOL Humor. It eases every challenge in life. It’s the sugar for me.
To have a good core of who they are and who they surround themselves with.